This week is ‘blog week’ for The Third Zone and as I set out to write it I was informed that necessary maintenance was being done on our site and until it was completed I might be stuck in a holding pattern. Stuck?? For sure and there was nothing I could do about it … except to wait.
While waiting I couldn’t help but to think of other times that I have found myself stuck … a kind of stuck that has gotten in the way of getting something done that I want to do, I need to do or should do. And when I’m in this place and although I really know what has to happen, there are times when I have tended to come up with many reasons that actually avoid my having to confront the mindset of ‘stuck’ head on and move forward.
During many years of coaching, I have and continue to encounter others trapped in this field of ‘stuck’ and the impact that has on feeling and being successful in what we do. The result is that it puts us in a deep and narrow rut. No fun … not productive and in general … a downer.
The first challenge and step to getting us to a better and more satisfying place is to recognize the reality of our situation … that we are stuck and that we don’t like being there. It’s about the power of our willingness to be vulnerable and the power of owning “stuck” … of looking at it square in the face and embracing it as an ally and friend.
What happens when you give ‘stuck’ a voice? What is it saying to you? What does it need or want from you? Maybe it just needs to be honored or paid attention to. Maybe it is saying something about radical self-care. Or maybe something about coming back to the place where you are grounded – whatever that is for you. Your faith, your relationships, your work or your relaxation place – it doesn’t matter. What we seem to know about “stuck” however, is that if it is ignored or fought, it will only get worse.
Here are some of the common types of ‘stuck’ that we often encounter and experience along with some things to question and work to get around or beyond that most uncomfortable place:
- Stuck in a mindset – often causing a sense of frustration that is anything but enjoyable
- Stuck in a position – contributing to your feeling of making no progress in where you foresee your career going and feeling trapped
- Stuck in general – the feeling of being generally lost in terms of where you are headed and why in any aspect of your life
Recognizing and accepting ‘stuck’ as a good sign of something that we can make better is for us to realize that it is an ally to helping us stay the course we choose. Saying “NO” to stuck is the beginning and in relatively short order we make adjustments that return us to a positive and productive path. And oh yes … the site maintenance is finished! STUCK NO MORE!